How-To Guides of Dating

Dating for Dummies? Absolute Beginners Guide to Online Dating? How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You?

...Are you kidding me?

How about - jumping out there. Trying to swim. What is the worst thing that could happen at the end of the day? You'll be alone? You'll die? You'll be bored? You'll meet someone? You'll have a good laugh and maybe a good dinner? Maybe a really great trip to the zoo to see the polar bears? (Come on, go on the date, even if it's just to see the polar bears!)

All of these books are nothing but people trying to make money off of those who need to just... focus on working towards something. It's similar to those who study and study and study for a test they'll never take. What's the point of all that studying if you're just never going to take the test? Sure you might fail, but what a waste of time if you don't even attempt.

I was looking at the first page of "Dating for Dummies" and this quote hit me right off the bat. And it was on the very first page:

"You, and you alone, are the beginning of any dating experience."

Which means, you should start with the one thing you DO understand... yourself.

You know what you like, what makes you laugh, when makes you cry. You know you can't stand the Yankees and live for movies with Tom Hanks. If you understand nothing at all - you understand yourself. And that Harry Potter movies were ridiculously overrated.

Starting with you is the only thing you need to figure out dating. The rest should stem from there... but it can't stem anywhere if you don't allow yourself room to grow.